The NZ music industry has one of the highest rates of mental health conditions and suicide in New Zealand. Navigating through our music industry can be both daunting and stressful, which can make it difficult to overcome challenges.
If you need someone to talk to, please refer to the following:
MUSICHELPS WELLBEING SERVICE
MusicHelps provides caring, confidential and practical support to Kiwi music people experiencing illness, distress & hardship. They provide vital support including medical treatment, counselling and hardship assistance to Kiwi music people and their families in times of crisis.
Available 24/7 online and on-phone.
Website
Phone0508 MUSIC HELPS
HELP 0800 623 1700 Website Auckland – 0800 623 1700 Wellington – 0800 367 4357 (press 0 at menu) | SAFE TO TALK Website Phone 0800 044 334 Text 4334 Email support@safetotalk.nz |
OUTLINE – LGBTQI+ Support Line 0800 OUTLINE | DEPRESSION.ORG.NZ Website Phone 0800 111 757 TXT 4202 |
ANXIETY NEW ZEALAND Website Phone 0800 ANXIETY (0800 269 4389) | THE LOWDOWN Website Web chat, email chat or free TXT 5626 |
LIFELINE Phone 0800 543 354 | SAMARITANS Phone 0800 726 666 |
MENTAL HEALTH FOUNDATION Website Phone 09 623 4812 Click here to access free resource and information service | YOUTHLINE Phone 0800 376 633 Free TXT 234 Email talk@youthline.co.nz Online chat and other support options here |
SUPPORTING FAMILIES IN MENTAL ILLNESS Phone 0800 732 825 | TAUTOKO SUICIDE CRISIS HELPLINE Phone 0508 TAUTOKO (0508 828 865) |
MENTAL HEALTH SERVICES CRISIS HELPLINE Phone 0800 800 717 | NEED TO TALK Free call or TXT 1737 to talk to a trained counsellor |
More information is also available via the No More Directory.
DEALING WITH STRESS
Stress can come in many different forms, and it can have many different effects on you. One of the best things you can do for yourself is to keep calm no matter what. Problems will be easier to solve and arguments will be less likely to arise if you can keep calm.
While some people may find that keeping calm comes naturally to them, others may need extra help to make it possible to stay calm. The following steps may help with keeping calm, whilst also helping to reduce your stress levels.
- Stop to smell the roses
Appreciate your surroundings
Take time out to experience and enjoy nature - Accept that some days you will not be 100%
Problems are not always as big as they may seem
Confide in a friend, or write a letter to yourself - Accept that you cannot change everything, and move on
You can’t change other people
Accept others as they are
Don’t put energy into something that doesn’t have a solution
Don’t let other’s actions influence you - Remember you are only human
Everyone makes mistakes
No-one is perfect
Be patient with yourself and others
If you are struggling, seek help - Don’t care what other people think
If people cannot accept you for who you are, it is their problem - Weigh up the costs and benefits
Sometimes the costs outweigh the benefits - It could be worse
Consider those less fortunate - Communicate and make your intentions clear
Listen to others
Other people won’t know how you feel if you don’t tell them - Don’t take on too much work
Learn to say no
Don’t feel guilty when you have to say no
Understand that sometimes it is not possible to do everything
There are times when it is necessary to take a step back and reduce commitments
Learn to take back time for yourself - Remind yourself you have coped before
- Eliminate fear
90% of what we fear never happens - Be decisive
Don’t dwell on decisions
It is ok to make a wrong decision and to learn from your mistakes - Try to live without placing too many expectations on yourself
- Live in the moment
Take each moment as it comes
Go with the flow
Don’t regret the past, you can’t do anything about it
Don’t let ‘what if’s’ rule your life - Listen to music
- Put the brakes on
Don’t rush
Don’t try to fit too much into your day
Take time out between activities - Find the silver lining
Look on the good side of things
When one door shuts, another door opens - Have faith that everything is working out for the best
- Forgive yourself and others
Don’t bring up old arguments and complaints (i.e. if the issue was resolved before, don’t keep bringing it up again and again) - Keep things in perspective
Take credit when you get things right - Stay calm
Mentally visualise a circle and place your problems outside that circle
Take 5 deep breaths
Consider meditation or yoga etc
If you have anger to deal with consider punching a pillow or soft toy, writing all your thoughts down or going for a brisk walk - Be imperfect
You don’t have to be the best of everything
You don’t have to be right all the time
Learn from your mistakes
Don’t set yourself unrealistic goals - Find your happiness within
Accept yourself as you are
Be optimistic in your approach to life - Focus on the solution instead of the problem
- Don’t let it become a big deal
You can cope
Don’t assume the worst
Don’t let any fears and worries escalate out of control - Vent
Get it out of your system by talking about it – even if only to yourself
Don’t get yourself worked up by going over the same issues over and over again
AFFIRMATIONS
Repeating affirmations can motivate you to act and help you to concentrate on your goals whilst changing your negative thought patterns into positive ones. They can also help you to feel good about yourself, and boost your self-confidence.
Consider incorporating the following affirmations into your daily life:
- I can do anything if I put my mind to it
- Failure will test me but it won’t defeat me
- I trust that everything happens for my higher good
- I am the best I can be
- I am true to myself
- I am pleased with all I have accomplished
- I am a necessary and integral part of other’s lives
- This year is going to be the best yet
- I am ready to take on everything that comes my way
IT’S TRUE…
- If you don’t do something to stand out, no-one will notice you. You have to be different to make it in today’s world – show confidence, and don’t bring yourself down to other people’s levels
- The greatest revenge is doing well
- No-one is ‘better’ than anyone else
- You don’t have to pay any attention to what other people say
- What you have on the inside counts more than what you have on the outside
- True friends accept you for who you are. They will support you, even if they don’t like what you are doing
- Good judgement comes from experience, and experience comes from bad judgement
- It’s nice to be important, but more important to be nice
- Out of trial and tribulation comes lessons learnt and stronger relationships
WHAT ELSE CAN YOU DO?
- Surround yourself with positive people who support you
- Have days off when you need a break
- Create a list about all the good things in your life
- Start a journal where you write about good things that have happened each day
- Practise visualisations
- Know that you have done the best you can based upon the existing circumstances
- Ask yourself two questions each day – 1) what did you enjoy about the day? and 2) what have you got to look forward to?
- Look over things that make you feel good – old photos, certificates from school, or keep print outs of social media comments where people have said nice things about you
- Remember, regardless of what happens in life, you are loved by someone